The Venus Factor For Women Offers Dieting Success

I’ve written before about the venous factor, but I want to emphasise that it has more than the obvious advantages for women who want to lose weight —  in specific terms, the truth of the matter is that men find women who are slim and toned more attractive than women who are overweight or obese.

Now I’m not for a moment suggesting that women should regard men’s as a reason for losing weight or altering their body image.

However the fact of the matter is this: women like to be attractive to men, and their self-image to a large extent depends on being so — therefore if you are overweight or obese, you might choose consciously to lose weight and look good so that all manner of improvements can take place in your life, including those around sexual attractiveness.

Here’s a video from a woman who lost weight and you can see the difference between before and after:

I have very little doubt that you will agree with me that there is considerable difference between the two, and although it may be that some men find the woman more attractive at 190 pounds, in my opinion she’s far more attractive at 148 pounds.

Now I believe the subject of whether or not dieting to make yourself attractive to men is a personal decision, so here I’m simply majoring on the details of the Venus Factor Diet for women (click here to see it).

However – if you happen to be interested in the effect of being overweight on a couples sex life, read this….from this original source.

A Pattern Emerges

Clearly, there are obese people who are happy, fulfilled and feel deeply connected in their relationships — emotionally and sexually. But in the interviews done for this story with marriage therapists, sexual health doctors and weight researchers, a pattern emerges: Obese people — especially those trying to lose weight — are more dissatisfied with their sexual lives, and obese women seem to suffer the most.

“Instead of enjoying their sexual intimacy, they’re worried about the size of their stomach or, ‘Oh my god, he’s going to touch my stomach. What’s he going to think about my stomach?’ ” says Ronnie Kolotkin, a psychologist at Duke University Medical Center who designed a widely used survey that measures how obesity affects quality of life.

Men with fat bellies suffer far more erectile dysfunction, low sex drive and premature ejaculation than other men. Original source here.

The results

After adjustment for potential confounding factors (age, education level, chronic disease and limitation of daily activity), obese women were 30% less likely than normal weight women to report a sexual partner in the past 12 months

Obese men were 70% less likely to have had more than one sexual partner in the same period and were two and half times more likely to experience erectile dysfunction.

Sexual dysfunction was not associated with BMI among women. However, obese women under 30 were less likely to seek contraceptive advice or use oral contraceptives. They were also more likely to report an unintended pregnancy. Obese men under 30 were far more likely to have had a sexually transmitted infection.

Results also show a significant trend towards decreasing sexual desire with increasing BMI.

Obese women were also five times as likely to have met their partner on the Internet, more likely to have an obese partner, and less likely to view sex as important for personal life balance. The authors suggest that social pressure, low self-esteem and concerns about body image may help explain these findings.

So Will You Lose Weight Fast?

Now, challenging though dieting may be, there’s very little doubt that it’s actually very good for one’s health, but it’s actually proven to lower cholesterol, and that in particular sexual desire, sexual activity, and sexual “performance” all improve dramatically when you are fit and healthy and when you are at your normal correct weight.

It’s been demonstrated very clearly that even losing 5-10 pounds can make people feel much healthier. In fact, the benefits of dieting have been well documented in numerous studies — losing weight makes you feel healthier and is healthier. And you’re actually going to prolong your life and avoid premature death from cardiovascular problems, for example.

Other issues that can arise with overweight people are insulin insensitivity, and sexual problems that we’ve already mentioned, circulatory problems,and so on and so forth. Read more about healthy eating here.

Now of course the venous factor is on to cure all, it isn’t a solution to every single problem that you may experience when trying to lose weight, but it’s certainly a high quality program written with good intentions and based very firmly in the scientific modality.

It’s based on the principle of leptin resistance, which is a problem for women who want to lose weight — the female body is often very insensitive to the hormone leptin which has been dubbed the “fat burning” hormone since it’s responsible for the deposition and release of fat from the fat stores in the body.

It’s actually not possible to supplement leptin by administering it as drug,so the only way to get leptin working more efficiently is to increase the body’s sensitivity to it — and that can be done by certain dietary protocols and nutritional supplementation. That’s the basis, in fact, of the Venus Factor  – it works to increase the sensitivity of the body to leptin so that the hormone can actually work on the fat stores and release them into the bloodstream, thereby aiding the loss of weight…

…but the bad news might be that it isn’t quite as simple as that, because you do need to eat fewer calories, and you probably also need to take an exercise program.

However having said all of that, what makes the Venus Factor different to other programs that are available on the market is the fact that it’s designed on an individual basis for its customers: you feed in a few simple information points about your weight, height, body mass index and so forth, and out of the software you get a personalized nutrition and exercise program.

Now as if this wasn’t good enough, you also get the opportunity to amend the foods that being prescribed for you — yes, that’s correct! You get complete information on every meal and the calorie content of it, for the entire 12 weeks of the Venus Factor program  — so that you can enjoy the foods that you actually prefer to eat.

You see, this isn’t some kind of restrictive diet whereby you have to starve yourself all the only certain foods! Truth of the matter is, you can eat a good diet, you can avoid hunger pangs, you don’t have to exercise in prescribed and punishing regime, and you do have the support of other like-minded individuals in the Venus Factor community…

…it’s hard to imagine in fact a better diet plan for women, because it covers not only physical welfare, but also spiritual, emotional, and practical matters — in terms of support, I haven’t seen a better organisation and the Venus Factor that  members community, where people get together to exchange essential information on dieting and slimming.

It’s also possible to find buddies in your local area who can come and exercise with you in the local gym — although it needs to be said at this point that you can use all the exercises at home instead of going to the gym if you prefer.

Venus Factor dieting leads to better sex Venus Index diet for women

They come on a downloadable program, so you can print them out and take them to the gym, or you can put them on your mobile phone as an app, and use them from the screen of your phone — but once again, in the same way you get as an individualized nutritional program, you get every single exercise the entire program laid out for you in advance of taking the Venus Factor diet regime.

It’s a serious diet plan for serious dieters, but on the other hand it doesn’t need to be hard work — it can actually be fun! And while you might find it hard to believe at the moment, if you actually look at the program,  you will find that there are lots of opportunities to doing the hard work of dieting in a different, perhaps even a pleasant — and dare I say “easy” — way.



Love. sex and the whole damn’ thing!

The PC Muscle 

When a man knows the level of arousal in his body, and can feel the beginning of the fluttering of the muscles of the pelvis as they prepare for ejaculation and orgasm, he is in a better place to be able to control premature ejaculation.

PC muscle control is key to ejaculation control

PC muscle control is key to ejaculation control

The important stage, therefore, of any training program would go something like this: as his arousal increases, and he senses the contraction of the muscles of the pelvis becoming stronger, he can slow down his arousal with short lived, voluntary contractions of the pubococcygeal muscle. You can also read about this in ejaculation by command, a system for men to get complete control in bed.

This will inhibit the increase in his arousal.

Good sex depends on ejaculation control

Good sex depends on ejaculation control

Now, you may well have seen that a number of ejaculation control programs which suggest that it’s possible to control ejaculation by strengthening the pubococcygeal muscle and then using it to clamp down as the process of ejaculation commences.

I’ve researched the matter thoroughly and I can assure you that there is absolutely no possibility of controlling ejaculation by clamping down PC muscle.

For one thing, it doesn’t actually stop the process of ejaculation: if it works at all, it only works to stop the semen being ejected from the end of the penis.

What this means is that while contracting the PC muscle hard, you lose the pleasure of orgasm, you don’t control your ejaculation, and you also lose your erection.

However the interesting thing is that there is a way to use the pubococcygeal muscle as a means of ejaculation control when you’re learning to overcome premature ejaculation.

What you should actually be doing is contracting the muscle briefly at regular intervals in the run-up to “the point of no return”.

That is to say, as you become more aroused, you can contract the pubococcygeal muscle voluntarily, and as you do so, inhale. Then, holding the muscle, expel the air that you’ve inhaled in short sharp, explosive gasps.

This combination of physical muscle contraction and breathing will significantly reduce your arousal, interrupting the increase in your arousal and halting your headlong dash towards the point of no return.

It’s not entirely clear why this should be, although contracting the muscle in this way as you become more aroused will always cause a significant or noticeable decrease in the strength of your erection, and my assumption is that as your erection diminishes, the stimulation that your penis received diminishes, and so therefore does your arousal as well.

Orgasmic ability and good health are connected

Orgasmic ability and good health are connected

This is actually a well-known Tantric technique for ejaculation control, and well worth practicing at home if you want to find a way of controlling ejaculation during sex with your partner. Read about getting orgasm by command here – a radial idea if ever there were one!

Admittedly, this requires patience and tolerance and understanding on your partner’s part as well, so it’s worth while researching this and explaining what you’re going to do with her before you actually commence!

But what about other things can you do during intercourse to control rapid ejaculation?

Well, the classic advice is to find a sexual position in which your penis receives less stimulation, so you have a chance of lasting longer before you ejaculate.

Much has been written on the subject, and the various merits of different sexual positions been debated extensively in Internet forums and elsewhere.

What I can tell you with great certainty, however, is that whatever sex position you find most arousing will be the one that is least enabling of ejaculation control.

The sex positions that you find least arousing, either psychologically or physically — that is to say, the ones which place less pressure on your penis, and therefore provide less neural stimulation — are the ones that will help you last longer.

So in this category, we’re probably going to assume that rear entry sex is a no-no for most men who are learning to control premature ejaculation, simply because it is so arousing.

The same might also be true of the man on top sex position, which has the capacity to arouse and excite in a way that other positions do not.

This is because the muscular tension that you have to exert to keep your weight off the woman as you position yourself on top of her increases the amount of tension in your body.

Since orgasm is actually primarily the release of tension which has built up in the body, you can see that any sex position which increases bodily tension is likely to shorten the time between penetration and ejaculation.

premature ejaculation

What’s a “short” time between ejaculation and orgasm?

Which just leaves – more or less  – sitting sex positions and the side-by-side sex position, The power of these is actually borne out by the reports that men have given me about how effective they can be in learning ejaculation control.

I strongly recommend that you use the side-by-side sex position if you wish to gain greater ejaculatory control because what you will find, when you practice, is that you can start of the man on top position and then turn onto your sides, in this way giving the woman plenty of pleasure and decreasing the s amount of pressure on your penis significantly.

So interestingly enough, this is a position which will place less pressure on your penis and so allow you to last longer, while not depriving woman of much pleasure. It’s ideal for ejaculation control because it allows you to lie still, talk to each other, caress all the erotic parts of each of other’s body….

Good sex depends on ejaculation control

An ideal position for ejaculation control

… and, in particular, for a man with premature ejaculation, lying still in this way will prove to be a very effective means of ejaculation control.

The rationale is that he’s not receiving much stimulation to his penis, and so therefore he is much less likely to ejaculate. Thrusting is easy to control, but cannot be particularly deep in this position, which gives a man another helpful way to ensure that he doesn’t come too soon.

All in all this is an excellent lovemaking position for ejaculation control.

So to sum up, I’d like to list the combination of techniques that give a man ejaculation control to a very high degree: they are

  • masturbation training to become familiar with sensations of the body before the point of no return and during the run-up to ejaculation
  •  vaginal acclimatization
  •  choosing the correct sex position
  • using muscular control of the pubococcygeal muscle.

By combining all these techniques in various ways, you are likely to be able to establish complete control of your ejaculation within only a few weeks.

Get fit, lose weight, eat the right food — and be a sexual success!

You might think that title is a bit of a joke, but I can assure you it’s deadly serious.

There is plenty of evidence to confirm the fact that men who eat a good diet and maintain a high level of fitness continue to be sexually active for far longer than men who allow themselves to become overweight, unfit, and eat loads of junk food.

As we age sex declines in quality

As we age sex declines in quality

Now, naturally as a man ages, his sex drive decreases, so there is a vicious circle of lowering testosterone, lower motivation to have sex, and a compensatory desire for comfort eating which can extend to the consumption of large quantities of fat and sugar.

The fact that this process is almost inevitable if you don’t intervene to do something different, behoves us all to take care of ourselves as we grow older, and to ensure that we use every possible way of maintaining our health and fitness.

You see, good sex does not come naturally at any age.

Good sex and good health are connected

Good sex and good health are connected

During our youth, the high levels of testosterone that flow around our bodies make us susceptible to premature ejaculation.

But apart from this, the fact that men are still largely expected to lead during sex, to initiate, often to show the woman how to enjoy sex, and frequently also to give her an orgasm, but a great deal of emotional pressure on men.

And that’s of any age! But then as we grow older, stress and other forms of life pressures (illness, death, financial problems) make it harder to sustain an erection, can increase anxiety and stress, and sometimes make us unwilling to engage in sex at all.

Does she want sex? Are you offering it?

Does she want sex? Are you offering it?

Then for some men there are the problems of delayed ejaculation, which is a pernicious condition that means it may be difficult to conceive a child.

Sex goes on for ages without the satisfaction of ejaculation, and men and women are emotionally estranged because they don’t understand the emotional origins of this condition.

Now in addition to all of that, there’s the problem of poor diet, low exercise levels, and an overweight body. Sex is an activity that requires a lot of us — both spiritually, physically, emotionally and in every other way.

Without a high level of fitness, without a good diet, and without circulatory and physiological fitness, a man will find it harder to sustain an erection, harder to enjoy sex, harder to satisfy a woman, and harder to feel emotionally fulfilled by the act of intercourse.

In other words, if ever there were an argument to making sure that your fitness levels are maintained as you grow older, then sex is it.

It’s not even a matter of lasting longer in bed, or delaying premature ejaculation – it’s simply a pragmatic, practical decision.

And the decision is that to continue to enjoy sex, you choose to maintain high fitness levels by appropriate exercise, you decide to maintain good weight levels by dieting, and you extend your life by making good nutritional choices. The Adonis Golden ratio is a fitness and weight loss program for men that might help here.

Good sex and great health and fitness go together

Good sex and health go together!

And of course all of that sounds completely overwhelming! Yet there is one simple way in which you can achieve all of these objectives in one fell swoop — and that is by buying the Adonis golden ratio, and following its principles of nutrition and exercise.

You see, the Adonis golden ratio has been worked out by two experts in sports science, exercise physiology, nutritional biology and weight loss to fit the male physiology perfectly.

And beyond that, it’s designed to your individual requirements, to ensure that you personally have exactly the program that you need to be your optimum weight, achieve high fitness, and maximum sexual fitness as well!

Clearly the any man, of any age, these are not insignificant advantages, and it bodes well for your enjoyment of life and your enjoyment of sex if you decide to make the conscious choice to engage in the exercise regimes of the Adonis golden ratio program which will give you rapid weight loss, and make dieting easy.

Let’s face it, all of us need help from time to time and there are a few programs on the market which are as helpful from men is the Adonis golden ratio.

Tailored to the male physiology, it’s a program that allows all men to lose weight rapidly, and ensures that their sexual fitness, and the chance they have of overcoming premature ejaculation, is as high as possible.

Make no mistake about it, premature ejaculation and lasting longer in bed are two aspects of male sexual physiology which are intimately connected to your overall level of fitness, self-confidence, and self-respect.

Anything that you can do to increase your self-confidence and in particular your sexual self-confidence, will help you last longer in bed!

The coital alignment technique

I’m often asked in my role as a sex counselor, “what is the best sex position?” Well, there’s no simple answer this question because what a couple find enjoyable depends on the orientation of the erect penis in the vagina, and also the relative size of the male and female genitals.

This means that one couple will find the physical pleasure of, say, man on top to be highly preferable to the physical pleasure of rear entry, while another couple may experience exactly the reverse. No choice is right or wrong, it just depends on what suits a couple most.

Taken with the psychological and emotional pleasures of different sex positions, you can see that the opportunity for variation in favourite positions between couples is considerable. However, one thing that almost all couples complain about is the fact that it’s rather difficult for the woman to reach orgasm during intercourse.

This is a perennial source of difficulty and friction for couples, where the woman expects to be able to get sexual pleasure, quite reasonably, from the activities of her man, but he is only interested in thrusting to ejaculation during intercourse.

One solution, of course, is for a man to spend a lot more time on foreplay, but the truth is, that very often men are reluctant to do this, even though there are many advantages to doing so: not least the fact that an aroused woman enjoys lovemaking, and she’s much more into the experience, than a woman who’s not been aroused.

So if the man is going to go rapidly to intercourse (i.e. thrusting) then he clearly has a responsibility to ensure that it’s prolonged for the maximum duration possible, so as to ensure that woman can get an orgasm and full sexual pleasure. In addition he also has a responsibility to try and ensure that she has an orgasm. The one method that might allow couples to enjoy orgasm during intercourse is the coital alignment technique, a sexual technique which is a modification of the standard missionary position. Click here to read all about it.

The coital alignment technique specifically requires the man and woman to adopt a different orientation during lovemaking. To start with, the man enters as he would during standard missionary sex, and then shifts his body upwards, so that the angle of his penis is bent backwards, and that his pelvic bone, or pubic bone more specifically, is located in the general area of his partner’s clitoris.

Then, instead of thrusting backwards and forwards, a couple adopt a rocking motion which is more of an up-and-down motion of their pelvises. If done correctly, the coital alignment technique will have the effect of allowing the man’s pubic bone to stimulate the whole clitoral area of the woman, resulting in a level of stimulation that may well produce an orgasm if the man does not ejaculate too soon.

Now I know this is only one of the sex positions available to many couples, but it’s one of the best sex positions for couple who want achieve mutual equality an orgasmic enjoyment during sexual intercourse.

coital alignment technique

An Interesting Point About Sexual Attraction

One of the most controversial ideas that I have come across recently intense premature ejaculation, is the idea that a man ejaculates quickly so that he can “escape” from his partner.

Now you may think this is a crazy idea, but I think there is some merit in examining exactly what might be going on when people suggest this. I first came across the idea from a therapist colleague who told me that he had worked with a client who was clearly dissatisfied with his relationship. Indeed, although the relationship was actually conflictual and quite demeaning of the man, he was totally unable at this stage of his personal development, to leave the relationship and find a better partner for his own needs.

In all previous relationships this man had actually been ejaculating within a reasonable timescale of around 5 to 9 minutes, but within this relationship, he started ejaculating prematurely within 2 minutes. Clearly he was angry at his partner, but there was more to it than that: he actually admitted in therapy that he found the idea of sex with his partner quite aversive, and indeed possibly unpleasant. He also conceded that fast ejaculation was one way in which he could conclude the intimacy of sexual relations.

Now when I looked at this idea I thought was a compelling force to it: that men who are disempower from speaking their mind and asserting themselves with women can only express their feelings in what the Jungian therapists would call “shadow ways”.

And one of these might well be to ejaculate prematurely during intercourse simply get the experience over and done with. Now, this took me onto another line of reasoning, which was like this: that is a man finds his partner unattractive during intercourse, then he may ejaculate prematurely.

And what would cause a man to find his sexual partner unattractive? Well regrettably, one of the most common things is a change in the woman’s body, and unfortunately I’m referring to fatness and obesity. There’s no denying that his men are honest about this most of them would add in it that the appearance of their sexual partner is important to them.

We know that appearance is very important to women themselves, because actually that is a fundamental way in which sexual attraction between men and women is established. I also know from my work with men that a lot of men are able to overcome revulsion or distaste for their partners’ bodies by detaching themselves from that part of their awareness. My theory is therefore that men in many instances are likely to hide their feelings of this taste, revulsion or even disgust while they’re having sex with an obese partner, but the premature ejaculation may be one way in which they can terminate the coitus quickly.

All I can offer as a suggestion to help in this situation is an effective weight loss program for women, which helps women to lose weight fast, and is perhaps one of the most effective ways to women to lose weight. It’s called The Venus Factor, and the reason it’s so effective is that it works on sound physiological principles, all of which are well proven by scientific research. To be more specific, the way that it works is to increase the activity of leptin in a woman’s body, so that her fat burning hormone is actually more active and responsible for greater weight loss than it would normally be. I have a recommend the program as it has proved very satisfactory and successful for many of my associates, friends, and colleagues.

Delayed Ejaculation Stopped

A crucial point that requires some clarification is that orgasm or the feeling of achieving a release during sexual intercourse is a cerebral occurrence – it all happens takes place exclusively in the mind, even with the perceived bodily pleasures that are associated with it. When sexual partners attempt to grind deeper into the idea of delayed ejaculation, they generally tend to lump these two occurrences as one and the same event. Contrary to popular perceptions, orgasm and ejaculation are two entirely separate functions!

Conversely, ejaculation is a purely physical reaction which is triggered by repetitive stimulation to the penis and sexually sensitive nerve endings elsewhere in the body. Science has not yet identified where orgasmic pleasure occurs within the brain, but much is known about the neural pathways by which the physical function of ejaculation is triggered.

For those who are interested, one theory is that when sexual arousal reaches a certain threshold, the flow of ejaculatory fluids close to the farthest point of the the urethra builds up the pressure at the root of the erect organ, and this in turn triggers an entire set of physical responses including contraction of the pubococcygeal muscle.

Ejaculation is controlled by the involuntary nervous system, while gradually heightening erotic pleasure during sex is purely a function of the sympathetic nervous system.

As it is, medical professional have long known about delayed ejaculation and evolution of the terminology used to identify this bodily phenomenon probably represents in some part, the medical profession’s evolving attitude to the condition: ejaculatory incompetence, ejaculatory over-control, retarded ejaculation, and finally delayed ejaculation.

Personally, I’m inclined to believe that these name changes point to a gradually increasing level of respect for the men who are having sexual problems with their partners owing to their inability to ejaculate in a timely way during sexual intercourse.

Interestingly enough, most of these men are able to climax regularly from masturbation. This fact has led many scientists to speculate that there may be a correlation between a couple’s relationship status with failure to achieve orgasm and ejaculate during sexual intercourse. However, one must exercise a healthy dose of skepticism when seeking an explanation in the dynamics between a man and his partner.

There’s strong evidence to conclude that a man’s apparent inability to ejaculate during oral sex with a partner, intercourse with a partner, or even masturbation by a partner, merely represents the fact that there’s nothing in these activities that can compare to the heightened level of stimulation that an individual may be accustomed to perform on his own penis in the act of pleasuring himself.

Certainly, anyone can condition his own body to response to higher levels of stimulation, so it’s always wise to establish whether or not the difficulty in ejaculating simply lies in the fact that the man is able to apply harsh, firm, or high-frequency handling during self pleasuring, in a way that is not simulated during sexual activity with another person.

There’s reason to believe that if such is the crux of the aberration, the remedy will be in the form of retraining the body, the sex organ and the brain, to respond to a slightly different form of stimulation of the kind that can result to an orgasm during sex.

In many instances, counsellors and sex therapists often adopt the position that the dynamics between the partners is often the cause of the condition.

And it certainly can be. In my work as a counsellor, I’ve met sex partners who have become alienated from each other and have reduced intimacy to such a degree that the man no longer finds gratification in intercourse, and secretly dislikes the routine, while simultaneously finding himself unable to communicate with his partner in a way that could possibly pave a way to the resolution of these problems.

And even if there isn’t hostility, anger, or any other emotion on the part of the man towards the woman, there is, as some studies show, a particular kind of individual which is predisposed to delayed ejaculation.

According to the latest research journals, this individual profile appears to be a man who is somehow disconnected to his own preferences to induce sexual pleasure, who frequently is unaware of how aroused he is during sexual activity, who looks at sexual activity as some obligation that he needs to do as a routine, who considers himself as responsible for his female partner’s sexual gratification, and who is convinced that her pleasure must come before anything else and is the the most important part of sex. These personalities often, whether expressed or not, perceive themselves as the “workhorse of sex”, thrusting rhythmically (pointlessly at times) to bring the sexual intercourse to a satisfying climax.

An interesting observation in this arrangement is that most of the partners of males with this condition are almost always disinterested when it comes to sex, and have a tacit understanding that the man is implicitly responsible for their sexual gratification. As a matter of fact, they should be without a doubt responsible for their own orgasm. In such cases, it’s absolutely essential to be able to re-educate the sex partners and give them some actionable sexual information. This way, their expectations and beliefs around sex and sexual gratification can be brought closer to reality.

Furthermore, it has been observed that males who fall into this individual profile often lack awareness of their personal level of arousal. Often there appears to be a certain gap, or a blank space, in the sexual experience, so that they have come to associate their internal mechanism of sexual pleasure with the external dynamics of engaging in activity with another person.

What can be gleaned from all these is that their internal sexual paradigm somehow doesn’t serve as a source of sexual stimulus and pleasure: they are marooned in a sort of sexual limbo in which they try to have sex with another person minus all the emotional and physical tools that are important for it to be an enjoyable and intimate experience.


Overcome Premature Ejaculation

OK men, listen up!

I’m going to tell you a few home truths now that premature ejaculation. This may make uncomfortable reading, but I think it’s something you need to hear.

First of all, you need to ask yourself if you’re experiencing premature ejaculation because you’re sexually inexperienced.

And of course in one sense you probably are: after all, the frequency of premature ejaculation in men with a great deal of sexual experience is considerably lower than it is amongst a sexually naive population, who tend to be young men with a high sex drive.

Naturally enough, having a high sex drive is in itself a factor that tends to predispose men to ejaculate quickly. One of the other factors that is often not taken into account is the rather obvious, but nonetheless noteworthy fact that being with a naked woman, knowing you’re about to have sex with her can be extremely exciting – ie.e sexually arousing.

There are two reasons for this. One is the prospect of actually having sex and ejaculating inside a woman (that’s exciting, yes?), and the other is the fact that you’ve never done it before.

In other words, there’s an element of unfamiliarity which predisposes men to ejaculate far too quickly during intercourse.

I’d like to propose a radical and rather interesting solution to this difficulty: that is to say, that you might use the material available on the Internet, sexually explicit material, both videos of people making love, and educational websites that will explain to you the female anatomy, to become more familiar with what you’re actually going to be experiencing first-hand, before you actually get into bed with a woman.

You might think this may not make much difference but I can assure you that it will make several differences.

Used correctly, this technique actually massively increase your confidence, because you’re actually familiar with the genitalia of the woman, which means you have a great deal more confidence about what to do physically.

If you’ve been wise enough to watch material which educates you about oral sex techniques, or masturbation techniques, then you’re very likely to be able to ensure that you take your partner to orgasm, which will eliminate any concerns you may have about intercourse lasting a very brief time.

Let’s face it, no matter how well-intentioned you are, if you’re making love for the first time, then intercourse is not going to last very long.

In short, you’re going to ejaculate extremely quickly regardless of what you do, and the way that you get round this problem, is to satisfy the woman — i.e. give her an orgasm — before you even get into her.

So here are some resources that might be helpful. The first one is a resource which you can actually use to look at clitoris pictures, so that you’re familiar with the object of your desire and the second resource is that a website specifically about a program that is designed to help you last longer in bed.

It’s a review of ejaculation by command review, which is a program by Lloyd Lester that has achieved a great deal of popularity and success due to the fact that it helps men overcome premature ejaculation comparatively easily and in a very short space of time.

Now that’s very exciting, but you don’t have to take my word for it, because if you look on the Internet you’ll find plenty of websites which actually demonstrate you the great success of this program.

I know independent reviews are few and far between on the Internet, because most of them tend to be mere sales pitches. However, ejaculation by command has achieved notoriety, or rather, is achieved fame, simply because actually delivers on its promises.

Using a combination of techniques that involve self hypnosis, sexual techniques, and reprogramming your mind to be absolutely confident about your sexual ability, you’ll find ejaculation by command allows you to make love for much longer. Indeed, in my experience it’s not unusual for men to extend the duration of lovemaking from two minutes to 20 minutes.

Only by using the correct techniques can you do this, and in my opinion, one of the most important aspects of the whole ejaculation control scenario is your intention to last longer in bed.

Unless you actually have a clear intention to last longer in bed, you’re not likely to succeed in extending the duration of intercourse. The first question you ask yourself, therefore, must be: do I really mean to last longer in bed? Does it matter to me to satisfy my partner by giving her a long-lasting sexual intercourse?

Another extremely exciting aspect of ejaculation by command is the fact that it contains 15 emergency techniques which you can use the control your ejaculation during lovemaking today.

These are techniques which are guaranteed to work almost instantly, giving you far greater power and control in bed than you ever expected or imagined possible. You may be wondering if there emergency techniques that are so successful why you can’t use them on a permanent basis!

The answer to that is that you want to be able to make love without even thinking about what you’re doing, and the emergency techniques do require you to focus, to some degree, on the activity of lovemaking and what’s happening in the moment.

Do Health Conditions Affect Your Sex Life?

I had an email from a woman yesterday asking if her husband’s gout could be affecting his sexual pleasure, and suggesting that if it might be, I should send her a selection of remedies!

Well, this is not so unusual as you might think. I have had requests from men and women asking whether conditions as diverse as prostate enlargement, requiring prostate health supplements, and hiatal hernia might possibly affect people’s ability to enjoy sexual intercourse.

Certainly prostate enlargement, otherwise known as benign prostatic hyperplasia or BPH, can affect one’s sex life. The most likely cause of this is the administration of medication such as flomax (Tamsulosin hydrochloride) which interferes with the muscles of the prostate gland and is likely to inhibit ejaculation. However, it is also possible medication administered the mood problems such as anxiety and depression to have an impact on male sexual function.

One of the most common illustrations of this is the effect of SSRIs or selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors on male ejaculatory function. This effect was first noticed when men being given SSRIs such as Dapoxetine for depression reported that they had trouble ejaculating during intercourse, or that sometimes they could not ejaculate at all. Since then a considerable amount of work has been put into developing an SSRI drug which can be administered for premature ejaculation. Conversely, there are currently no medications many kind which can be given to a man who is experiencing delayed ejaculation and wishes to ejaculate normally during sexual intercourse.this type of ejaculatory dysfunction can only be addressed by an appropriate combination of psychotherapy and bodywork.

The significance of premature ejaculation is male sexual dysfunction cannot be overestimated. Approximately 30 to 50% of men ejaculate uncontrollably during sexual intercourse, an emotional and relationship problems which this causes could be considerable. Indeed, research has demonstrated that men with premature ejaculation frequently have a lower self-esteem and a lower the level of sexual self-confidence than men who are able to exert greater control over their ejaculatory function. The critical factors in learning to ejaculate with a greater degree of control appear to be (1) clear intention on the part of the man to make love last longer (2) the determination to apply series of self-help exercises which enable him to become more aware of when he’s going to ejaculate (3) the ability to delay gratification of orgasm & ejaculation so the partner may be satisfied before the man reaches orgasm (4) a willingness to engage in a serious bodily training exercises with the help of the man’s partner and finally (5) the determination to keep revisiting these techniques after the initial learning period is over.

This video illustrates some of the more important points about premature ejaculation How to control premature ejaculation and also explains a number of

interesting issues, in particular the definition of premature ejaculation, which has been subject to much debate in recent years. This discussion centres on the issue of whether premature refers to an inability to control ejaculation or a specific, defined period of time within which the man ejaculates during lovemaking.

Another highly relevant piece of information in some people’s minds at least, is that of whether or not there is relationship distress or a high level of stress on the part of the man, caused by his failure to control his ejaculatory reflex.

For some therapists, it’s absolutely essential that premature ejaculation is defined in a way that includes an element to recognise distress caused by the condition: without such distress, in these therapists’ eyes, there is no dysfunction.

Whether or not you consider this to be a reasonable point of view depends entirely on your view of premature ejaculation. Many people would say that the fact that a great number of men and women believe, even now, in these supposedly enlightened days, it is necessary for a man to bring a woman to orgasm through sexual intercourse, even though the majority of women can’t possibly reach orgasm during intercourse from the man’s thrusting alone, there are far more important issue was the ability of men to bring a woman to orgasm, period!

Certainly there are many points of view which one could take on this,but overall it’s important to understand that at the end of the day the thing that matters most is a couples individual sexual satisfaction and pleasure. Whether this is achieved by the man bringing woman to orgasm during foreplay, using oral sex and manual pleasuring techniques, or whether it is achieved by the man thrusting into the woman’s vagina during intercourse, is hardly the most important issue. What’s actually much more important is the ability of a woman a man to make their sexual requirements known to each other, and to obtain sexual pleasure in the most gratifying and pleasurable way that matches their individual sexual needs, and leaves them feeling that they have enjoyed each other’s company in a way that will not only reinforced the pair bond of couple, but will enhance the quality of their relationship outside the bedroom.

Jason Julius Orgasm Arts

Jason Julius is a sex educator who has developed a wide following on the Internet with his website Find out about his program for easy female orgasm by clicking on the link in the right hand column. >>>>>

His main idea is to educate men who wish to know how to bring women to orgasm easily without any of the difficulty traditionally associated with female sexual pleasure.

What this means in practice is an easy and simple system of female stimulation using both clitoral and G spot sensitivity to bring a woman to orgasm without any difficulty or delay.

Jason explains in his system exactly how it is possible for a man to identify when a woman is ready for vaginal and clitoral stimulation, and when she’s ready for penetration to allow her G spot to be stimulated.

Using models, Jason adeptly and adroitly offers an illustrated guide to men who wish to know how to stimulate women successfully during sexual intercourse or foreplay, so they can enjoy the pleasure of an orgasm every time a couple make love.

oa-banner2Reviews of Jason Julius’s program “Orgasm Arts” are universally favourable, and indicated degree of acceptance and understanding by mail readers which has brought him a new level of fame and recognition as one of the internet’s most accessible sexual educators.

The truth is, of course, that few if any of the people who set themselves up on the Internet as sex educators have any real qualifications, no matter how valuable their knowledge may be, and this tends to reduce their credibility.

Jason is different in this regard he speaks from a humble position of willingness to provide information to men who sexual education may be lacking in certain areas. As they say, the proof of the pudding is in the eating, and nowhere is this more true than in experimentation with sexual techniques.

You may, by downloading and using Jason Julius’s program, find out more about female sexual sensitivity and how to pleasure a woman than you would in many years of experimentation with in your relationship.

org2The reason for this is that within most relationships, communication is often limited, especially around intimate matters like sexual pleasure. By establishing a series of techniques to provide a man with more confidence about the arts orgasm, and how to establish a female orgasm blueprint before sex begins, it’s possible for a couple to reach a state of intimacy which then allows them to develop closer and more connected communication.

While we are traditionally led to believe that sexual intimacy comes from good communication, the reality is that sexual intimacy can promote good communication, simply because people will feel more connected once they’re in a couple where sexual pleasure is well established.

So what does this amount to? First of all, Jason Julius explains the techniques necessary to pleasure a woman using sexual stimulation of the G spot, after which he goes into a series of modules in his program all of which are designed to establish a blueprint for the female orgasm.

org11partNow if you think that it’s difficult for a woman to reach orgasm during intercourse, think again! All you have to know is what to do in different circumstances!

Check out the link in the column to the right for the complete information!

Have a look at the contents listed below and consider whether knowing all of this information would help you to establish greater confidence with women, and a greater likelihood of being able to bring them to orgasm during sexual intercourse!

All this information is covered by Jason Julius in his programme Orgasm Arts, and I’m sure you’ll agree with me that it’s a comprehensive review of female sexuality, all of which is designed to help men take women to orgasm:

Module 01: Mindset For Approaching Orgasms
Module 02: Guiding Her Mind
Module 03: Female Anatomy
Module 04: Clitoral Orgasms
Module 05: G-Spot Orgasms
Module 06: A-Spot Orgasms
Module 07: Oral Sex
Module 08: Squirting Orgasms
Module 09: Troubleshooting
Module 10: Forever Orgasms (Additional Techniques)

You’ll have observed that this isn’t just about physical stimulation. You will have noticed that is a lot of information here about the mindset that a woman needs to be in before she reaches orgasm.

org13partWhether you realize it or not, it’s actually vitally important for a woman to feel safe with the man she is making love to, feel sensuous and confident in her own body, and to feel that the man loves her, or at least respects her, before she is able to reach orgasm easily.

Now if all of this frightens you, my suggestion is that you read the information in Jason Julius’s manual, because it isn’t really very complicated, but it may well be information that you’ve never come across or even understood about female and male sexuality.

When you’re armed with information about the female mindset that can take women to orgasm as well as information about how to stimulate a woman physically so as to make the transfer reaching orgasm as high as possible, you’ll be able to go into the bedroom armed with the knowledge that you are a lover who literally would be desired by any woman!

Yeast Infection & Other STI’s Can Produce Premature Ejaculation



If you look at this picture you can probably understand why premature ejaculation can be caused by physical conditions like yeast infection. In fact, this picture shows a yeast infection of the penis, the condition is sometimes known as balanitis, although in this case yeast infection is affecting the whole of the foreskin and the shaft as well as the glans penis.

Anyone who has experienced this, and any woman who has experienced genital yeast infection,will know that the irritation can be considerable. It’s this irritation which can cause rapid ejaculation. I think this happens for two reasons: first, the irritation of the yeast infection is such a distraction from the pleasure of sex that the man’s attention is no longer on what he’s doing or the pleasure of his feelings. instead, he’s distracted, and that means that he is not focused on what he’s doing in a way that will prolong intercourse — anything that takes you away from your focus on your feelings during sex tends to make you reach orgasm faster.

Second, the sheer discomfort of making love with a penis that is so sensitive due to this infection is so great that it speeds ejaculation. I tend to see this as a way that the body has of limiting the amount of discomfort that it is experiencing due to the inflammation and soreness of the yeast infection.

Now I admit that you will not see STI’s or yeast infections mentioned as the cause of premature ejaculation very often. Nonetheless I am sure that this is the case, because I’ve heard so many clients who have expressed this very fact. It stands to reason that if you’re experiencing irritation and inflammation in your genitals, that anything which makes the situation worse is going to cause stimulation of the sexual response which causes ejaculation. To put this more simply, stimulation which the nervous system is getting is increased by the skin irritation, and together with the sexual stimulation, the threshold of ejaculation is reached more quickly.

There are plenty of cures for yeast infection. You only have to look at the Internet to see how many home remedies have been recommended by one author or another. In actual fact, during a yeast infection may be easiest if you use a prescribed cream like Monistat or Canesten to alleviate the infection, followed by suitable home remedies which will allow you to gain control of the environment in which yeast was able to flourish. There is little doubt that an imbalance in the body’s chemistry, often involving the excessive consumption of sugar and refined carbohydrates, can allow yeast infection to flourish where it would otherwise not do so.

For women, it’s frequently the case that antibiotics taken to other infections disturb the balance of probiotic bacteria and Candida albicans in the vagina or guts, allowing the yeast cells to flourish and overgrow in a way that promotes yeast infection. The classic symptoms of this are a creamy white discharge from the vagina with intense irritation, pain on urination, and sometimes pain on intercourse as well. Having said that, anybody who’s trying to have sexual intercourse while yeast infection is present in either themselves or their partner needs to think again!

The discomfort is considerable, and the damage to genitals can be made worse by the friction on irritated skin. If you must have sex, use a condom so that you don’t irritate the skin, and you don’t reinfect your partner.

As far as home remedies are concerned, there have been many recommended on the Internet. The most common is to consume yogurt which contains cultures of life bacteria such as Lactobacillus and acidophilus. These so-called probiotic bacteria, which are generally recognized as essential in maintaining a balance between Candida albicans, or yeast cells, and the natural level of immune system resistance in the body. Certainly eating lots of refined carbohydrates promotes an environment in which yeast can flourish, so these need to be eliminated from the diet.

Yeast Infection No More is probably one of the best programs on the Internet for the elimination of yeast using holistic measures, although as always the strategies come down to common sense: eat moderately, exercise well, maintain a healthy diet with the right balance of nutrients and micro-nutrients; avoid stress and get enough sleep. While simplistic, these are the prerequisites maintaining a healthy environment and an immune system which functions well. At the end of the day, the efficiency of immune system is what will keep your yeast cells in check.

It is of course important to be sure that you do have a yeast infection and not some other problems such as herpes or chlamydia. A quick visit to sexual health clinic or your general practitioner should be able to establish easily and simply exactly what it is that is affecting you, and allow you to utilize the correct cure for the problem that you’re suffering from.

In any event, when a man is sensitive to the level of arousal in his body, and can feel the beginning of the fluttering of the muscles of the pelvis, and as they prepare for ejaculation and orgasm, he is in a better place to be able to control a mature ejaculation. The next stage, therefore, of the training programme would go something like this: as arousal increases, and sensations of contraction of the muscles of the pelvis become more clear, significant but short lived contraction of the pubococcygeal muscle by the man under voluntary control will inhibit his increase in arousal. Now you may well have seen that a number of ejaculation control programme suggest that it’s possible to control ejaculation by strengthening the pubococcygeal muscle and then using it to clamp down as the process of ejaculation commences. I’ve researched the matter thoroughly and I can assure you that there is absolutely no possibility of controlling ejaculation by clamping down PC muscle will stop for one thing, it doesn’t actually stop the process of ejaculation: if it works at all, it only works to stop the semen being emitted from the end of the penis. What this means is that while contracting the PC muscle hard, you lose the pleasure of orgasm, you don’t control your ejaculation, and you also lose your direction. However the interesting thing is that there is a way to use the pubococcygeal muscle as a means of ejaculation control when you’re learning to overcome premature ejaculation. What you should actually be doing is contracting the muscle briefly a regular intervals in the run-up to the point of no return. That is to say, as you become more aroused, you can increase the contractions of the pubococcygeal muscle voluntarily, and as you do so with a sharp contract left on the sharp in breath, and then expel the air that you’ve inhaled as you release the muscle in short sharp gasps. This combination of physical and breathing work will significantly reduce your arousal, interrupting the increase in your arousal and had long dash towards the point of no return. It’s not entirely clear why this should be, although contracting the muscle in this way as you become more aroused will always cause a significant or noticeable de crease in the strength of your direction, and my assumption is that as your erection diminishes, the stimulation that the penis received diminishes, and so therefore does your arousal as well stop it’s actually a well-known Tantric technique for ejaculation control, and well worth practising at home if you desire to find a way of controlling ejaculation during sex with your partner. Now admittedly, this requires patience and tolerance and understanding on your partner’s part as well, so it’s worth while researching this and explaining what you’re going to do with her before you actually commence.


But what about other things that you can do during intercourse control premature ejaculation? Well, the classic advice is to find sexual position in which the penis receives less stimulation, so you have a chance of lasting longer before you ejaculate. Much has been written on the subject, and the various merits of different sexual positions been debated extensively in Internet forums and elsewhere. What I can tell you with great certainty, however, is that whatever position you find most arousing will be the ones that are least enabling of ejaculation control. The positions that you find least arousing, either psychologically or physically — that is to say, as in their place less pressure on your penis, and therefore provide less neural stimulation — other ones that you’ll be able to last longer and will stop so in this category, we’re probably going to assume that rear entry is a no-no for most men who are learning to control premature ejaculation, simply because it is so arousing. The same might also be true of the man on top position, which has the capacity to arousal excitement in a way that other positions go to, simply because the muscular tension that is exerted to keep your weight off the woman as you lie on top of her or position yourself on top of her increases the amount of tension in your body. Since orgasm is actually primarily the release of tension through muscular contraction and then spontaneous waves of contractionary taxation, you can see that any position which increases bodily tension is likely to shorten the time between penetration and ejaculation will stop which just leaves more or less sitting positions and side-by-side position, and this is actually borne out by the reports that men have given me as to how effective they can be in learning ejaculation control. I strongly recommend that you use the side-by-side position if you wish to gain greater ejaculate to control because what you will find when you practice it is that you can start of the man on top position and then turn onto your sides, in this way giving the woman plenty of pleasure and decreasing the s amount of pressure that is on the penis significantly. So interestingly enough, this is a position which will place less pressure on your penis and I allow you to last longer, whilst not depriving woman much pleasure. It’s ideal for ejaculation control because it allows you to lie still, talk to each other, caress all the other parts of each of the body, but in particular, for a man with premature ejaculation lying still in this way will prove to be a very effective means of ejaculation control. The rationale of course is that he’s not receiving much stimulation to his penis, and so therefore he is much less likely to ejaculate. Testing is easy to control, but cannot be particularly deep in this position, which gives a man another resource to ensure that he doesn’t come too soon. All in all this is an excellent technique for ejaculation control. So to sum up, I’d like to suggest that the combination of techniques that have been writing about that can give a man ejaculation control to a very high degree: they are one masturbation training to become familiar with sensations of the body presents before the point of no return and during the run-up to ejaculation to vaginal acclimatisation three choosing the correct sex position and for using muscular control of the pubococcygeal muscle. By combining all these techniques in various ways, you are likely to be able to establish complete control of ejaculation within only a few weeks.

Premature Ejaculation Treatment

Couple who have cured premature ejaculationClick here to find out all about the only PE treatment method I recommend.  That’s because it works, giving you the power to choose when to ejaculate during sex.

The astounding number of adverts and websites devoted to curing premature ejaculation proves what a common problem it is. And no wonder, because making love skillfully is essential for both a good quality sexual relationship and a sexually satisfied partner. (Here, “satisfied” means a woman can enjoy orgasms as often as she wants them during sex with her partner). Let alone getting sexual pleasure for yourself.

Coming too quickly when you make love can be a pretty dispiriting experience. It can certainly make you feel like a failure in bed, it does nothing for your confidence either inside or outside the bedroom, and it can be emotionally devastating for your partner. No wonder, when you read adverts with titles like “Don’t let her down again tonight!” How’s that supposed to make you feel? Bad, is the answer….

In all the years I’ve been working with men with premature ejaculation and their partners, I’ve seen many a woman who thinks her boyfriend or husband doesn’t care about her (the logic being: if he did care, wouldn’t he do something about his rapid ejaculation?), I’ve seen women who label their partners selfish, women who think their men are angry, women who think it must somehow be their fault, or that their man doesn’t love them….. and so on, and on, and on. My conclusions: women don’t know how much of a challenge PE is for a man…. and men never discuss it with women, probably because they are embarrassed about it. This is not good.

And, as you will know, if you have a tendency to come too quickly, none of these things is (usually) true. Not being able to last longer in bed feels like it’s completely out of your control; you probably have no idea how to go about stopping premature ejaculation. In fact, you’re probably as frustrated by it as your partner is.

Because, in my experience, most men who ejaculate quickly want nothing more than to stop it happening again. But the problem is, whenever you try to enjoy sex, you may well feel your orgasm approaching suddenly, often unexpectedly, before you ejaculate without much, if any, control. 

So why does this happen? Premature ejaculation is almost always caused by your body getting too aroused, too quickly, during sexual foreplay or intercourse. And then, suddenly, in a flash, you move across your point of no return, you feel the impending ejaculation and then, helplessly, you shoot your load. All too suddenly.

To be told it’s about being angry with your woman, or that it happens because you don’t love or respect your partner, or that you’re being selfish, is just adding insult to injury. In fact, most men with PE – at least in my experience as a sex therapist – are actually very loving, and want to give their partner a good time for as long as possible in bed. 

So what about a cure? Being relaxed with your partner and confident about your sexual abilities is a great start. So any technique which “reprograms” your beliefs about how good or bad you are in bed is a great start. Feeling relaxed and intimate with your partner is another big boost because a loving and reassuring woman can do much to make a man feel good about himself, and that is a big step to feeling more in control during sex. 

And there is more to it, as I guess you might expect. To have good ejaculatory control you need to know how aroused you are, how near the point of ejaculatory inevitability, how to slow down your rush towards orgasm, and how to lower your arousal… and, yes, of course that takes practice, and some persistence….. but how much better to slowly develop control than rush blindly into orgasm every time you go to bed (usually just as your partner begins to get aroused).

I put up with premature ejaculation for far too long, until I’d had enough and decided to stop it. As it happens, I also changed career and trained as a professional sex therapist, which did help!  Now, I am sharing the exact same techniques which helped me, in a treatment program which will help all men who just don’t last long enough in bed. Click here to find out all about it.

Treatment Of Premature Ejaculation

The physician charged with the treatment of premature ejaculation (PE) has a range of options. But before deciding the appropriate treatment, it is important to distinguish PE as a ‘complaint’ or as a ‘syndrome’. Many years ago, scientists classified PE into ‘lifelong PE’ and ‘acquired PE’. More recently, a new group of scientists have proposed further classifications, based on controlled clinical and epidemiological stopwatch experiments. Two other PE syndromes were included, called ‘natural variable PE’ and ‘premature-like ejaculatory dysfunction’.

Basically, there are two forms of treatment for PE, medication or therapy. Before deciding on the form of treatment the ‘Intravaginal ejaculation latency time’ (IELT) should be  measured by the man’s partner, using a stop watch to time intercourse from the beginning of penetration to the point of his climax. Only those men with a result of 1 to 1.5 minutes should require medication as a primary option, perhaps with therapy as well. For other sufferers, the treatment should be based on patient reassurance and education, behavior therapy, and perhaps psychoeducation to find the causes of irregular early ejaculation.

Here are some of the many medications available. Dapoxetine (Priligy) is a fast acting selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) created especially for the treatment of premature ejaculation, and is the only drug with specific regulatory approval for such a tratment. At present it is approved in several European countries, including Germany, Portugal, Finland, Sweden, and Austria. Dapoxetine is currently awaiting approval of the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) after concluding the third phase of a study, which included contributions from 25 countries, including the United States. Within this diverse population group, Dapoxetine significantly treated all aspects of PE, with few major side effects.

Tramadol (Ultram or Tramal) is an atypical oral analgesic, used for the treatment of mild pain and approved by the FDA. It is characterized atypical as it is similar to an opioid, as an agonist at the mu receptor, but also has the effect of an anti-depressant in that it increases levels of serotonin and norepinephrine. Tramadol has very few side effects, has a low abuse potential, and increases (IELT) by a factor of four to twenty fold in more than 90% of cases.

Clomipramine (Anafranil) is commonly prescribed by physicians to treat PE. One of the drug’s properties is to help delay ejaculatory response. The Mayo Clinic have described this particular side effect as ‘Increased sexual ability, desire, drive, or performance.’

Desensitizing creams that can be applied to the tip and shaft of the penis can also be used to prevent PE. Such creams are applied on an ‘as required’ basis and have few adverse systemic side effects. But it should be explained to the patient that use of these creams may lead to insensitivity in the penis, and also a possible reduction of sensation for the sexual partner.

Breathing Properly Can Make You Last Longer in Bed For Men And Stop Premature Ejaculation

In this article, we are going to talk the importance of breathing in order to stay in control of your arousal and  a specific breathing technique that make will you last longer in bed.

You see, If you can control your breath, you can control your body.

If you were looking for a magic pill that solves all problems with no efforts on your part, well I’m sorry to tell you that such thing doesn’t exist. Like anything of value in life, learning how to stop premature ejaculation requires some work. But breathing really is the closest thing to a magic pill.

The breath is the link between what you can’t control and what you can control in your body. For example, you can’t control your heart, you can’t tell your heart to stop beating. On the other hand, you can fully control the movements of your arms or your hands.

Breathing is somewhere in the middle. If you don’t think about breathing, you breath anyway, and that’s obviously a good thing – we don’t have to always think about breathing in order to survive!

But you can also control your breathing, focus on it and modify it in order to change what’s happening in your body. With your breathing, you can control stress and fear, and you can also control your sexual arousal and last longer during sex.

Simply using deep breathing and focusing on your breathing will allow you to decrease your arousal level significantly in no time, and at will. When I say “deep breathing”, I mean a breath that starts from the belly. Don’t breathe from your chest; it has to start from your belly.

Breathing Techniques To Last Longer In Bed For Men

Now, I want you to simply start putting all your attention on your breathing. Focus on your inhalations and your exhalations. Notice how only focusing on it makes you breathe more slowly and deeply. Notice how you already feel more relaxed, more in control of what’s happening in your body.

Now, try a few deep breaths. Again, I want you to focus only on your breathing. Visualize the air first filling your belly, then rising to your rib cage, then to your heart and then to your throat; be aware of those 4 points as you inhale. When you exhale, just let go of all the air and relax. Don’t force the air out of your lungs but just let go. Don’t be shy – you can even make a little sound like “haaaaaaa” as you release the air.

OK, so now that you know that breathing is one of the keys to control your ejaculation, and now that you know what deep breathing is, you can incorporate it in your practice.

When you masturbate (as I teach my students), be focused on your body and your sensations. Also, be aware of your arousal and where you are on a scale of 1 to 10; it shouldn’t be too hard to focus on your breathing at the same time. Whenever you feel your arousal going up faster than you would like, focus on your breathing and start doing deep breaths as I just described.

I can guarantee that this alone will bring your arousal back down and give you more control. And by the way, you can do the same during intercourse. There’s nothing wrong with focusing on your breathing or using deep breathing while making love. It will definitely help you last longer and your partner might even find it sexy. (Especially when she realizes you’re in control and you’re present in the moment!)

But if you’re worried that she might think you’re doing something weird, why don’t you share with her what you’re trying to accomplish? She can be a great support for you, particularly when she realizes your objective is to make sex better for both of you!

So the tip I just gave you seems pretty simple right? But believe me this is effective. And it can give results instantly too! To summarize, when you feel your arousal going up, focus on your breathing, slow down your breathing and breathe fully starting by filing the belly. This will bring your arousal back down and keep you in control. If you would like to learn more about breathing techniques and other very powerful ways to train your body and your mind to last as long as you want in bed, I have a simple, step by step video program that is available.

Tony Bonacci – Guest Writer

Ways To Last Longer In Bed For Men

I don’t want you to get despondent about the difficulties of ejaculation control: if you approach it in the right way, it’s actually not hard to learn how to last longer in bed. The important question is: “Are you really willing to put in the effort that’s needed to slow down your sexual arousal and delay your orgasm so you can really last longer?” You see, the fact is that in learning to last longer, intention is everything. You have to make a firm commitment to overcoming PE, and you have to practice the ejaculation control techniques with dedication. If you’re not willing to do that, then you’re never going to learn how to slow down your orgasm. And that means that your cycle of fear, shame, embarrassment, anxiety – and fast ejaculation – will simply continue each time you make love.

On the other hand, assuming that you are indeed committed to learning to slow down, then the good news is that there are plenty of simple techniques you can use. In my last post I said that one of the key things about orgasm is that it’s tension releasing. This means that the more tense you are, the faster you’ll reach orgasm. Conversely, of course, the less tense you are, in other words, the more both physically and mentally you are, the more slowly you’ll reach orgasm. To help stop tension building up, muscular relaxation techniques are a crucial part of ejaculation control training.

But it isn’t just being relaxed in your body that’s important. It’s also essential to be relaxed in your mind. As you probably know, if you’re experiencing strong emotions like fear or anxiety, say for example about ejaculating too soon or not being able to satisfy your sexual partner, then you’re likely to come quite quickly whether you want to or not. So mental attitude is a crucial part of overcoming premature ejaculation.

The obvious question is, how do you change your mental attitude? How do you cope emotionally with your self-doubt and the all-too-real prospect of not, shall we say, performing too well in bed? Well, you could break the vicious cycle of negative reinforcement, and one of the best ways to do this is by practising good sexual techniques, in other words learning to make love more skilfully. Needless to say, this is best done with a partner who you love and respect, and who is willing to join in the fun with you!

That means it’s obviously helpful to be in a long-term relationship with a partner whom you trust while you’re trying to develop control of your ejaculation. Having said that, many men are not in such a situation, but if you’re in this situation it’s still possible to gain a great deal more control of your ejaculation, and to learn some simple techniques that make it less important if you do spurt too soon (e.g. by giving her an orgasm before you even think about your own).

One of the simplest and easiest techniques to help yourself last longer in bed is to use breath control. Surprisingly it may sound, debriefing is a very powerful technique that can help you last much longer in bed. Four men, sex is so exciting that our bodily responses often run away with this. You might have noticed how you become tense and excited, and your breathing becomes shallow and fast when you’re a sexual situation. That’s a natural response, but as you can well imagine it doesn’t slow down your ejaculation or extended period of lovemaking. If you actually consciously intervened by breathing deeply and slowly, you’ll find that you can maintain a great deal more control over how quickly become aroused.

The next technique courses I’ve implied before is to maintain a level of relaxation in your body. Tension building up – that means in effect that you need to seek out lovemaking positions which don’t put a lot of strain on your muscles and increased tension in your body during sex. The ultimate position for this is the woman on top position, because you just get to lie on your back whilst she enjoys being the dominant for once and you enjoyed it the sight of her making love with you! If she’s not willing to do this, or you’re not willing to relinquish your position of “male power”, then side-by-side lovemaking positions are a good compromise. One that you should avoid more than anything is the man on top position because having to support your weight in your arms generates so much tension that you’re likely to ejaculate faster than ever; a situation not helped by the fact that you can thrust very deeply – the pelvic thrusts are another key element of rapid climax in men.

Now you may also have heard that pupil Cox Aegeus muscle training is essential ejaculation control. The truth is that most of the advice about PC muscle control is very unreliable, if not downright wrong. For men, lasting longer is all about keeping sexual arousal below the point of ejaculatory inevitability (a.k.a. the point of no return – as you know that’s the moment when you are simply going to ejaculate no matter what happens and you can’t stop the reflux occurring). Any technique that allows you to keep your sexual arousal below the point which went to ejaculate clearly will enable you to last longer in bed. You can do this quite effectively by squeezing your PC muscle for brief periods of time. This isn’t about stopping ejaculation once started, it’s about simply doing that – squeezing your PC muscles for brief periods of time as you begin to become more aroused what you’ll find if you do this consistently and consciously is that your erection probably fade slightly and your level of sexual arousal decreases slightly. It’s a very effective tool: in fact, it’s one of the most effective tools for slowing down the rate which you tramp up your sexual arousal, and it can keep you on the plateau phase below the point of ejaculatory inevitability for quite some time.

Interestingly enough, what you’ll also find is that squeezing your PC muscle when you’re very near to the point of ejaculation actually speeds it up you might have noticed how, perhaps if you’re not particularly interested in what’s going on sexually, and you’re having a hard time reaching orgasm, that squeezing your PC muscle tensing your body can actually bring on ejaculation. It is paradoxical muscle can do to different things, but if you learn to use it wisely, you certainly don’t develop great ejaculation control. You paragraph

And finally the other key element of ejaculation control for men in bed is maintaining focus on what’s happening. By that I mean not being distracted by fantasy, but actually keeping your attention on yourself and your partner and actually sensing your level of arousal, her level of arousal, and the delicate interplay of sexual energy between the two. What you’ll find if you do that is that your arousal is very closely linked to her is, and that’s fine, as long as your arousal isn’t increasing so rapidly that it exceeds hers and you reach the point of climax long before she gets. When you’re open sensitive to have aroused your partner is, you can apply the simple techniques described above to control your own increase ingot arousal, so that your ejaculation is delighted. And that, it’s all about lasting longer in bed four men.

For Men: How To Last Longer In Bed & Delay Ejaculation

I’m often asked what are the key factors, for men, that enable them to last longer in bed? I think the first, and maybe the most important, thing is that you don’t have expectations which are too high. For example, did you know that the average time that men can control their orgasm during sex, before they ejaculate, is only 90 seconds? That figure is not very well known, but it certainly shows that the majority of men have either not learned to delay their ejaculation, or are naturally fast ejaculators, or perhaps don’t care about how long they last in bed.

After all, for men, sex is a rewarding activity whether it lasts 30 seconds or 90 seconds – or at least that’s what we all think. But I wonder if that’s because we’ve all been exposed to the idea that any kind of ejaculation, any kind of orgasm, is a good one? One of the things we grow up with during adolescence and young adulthood (and possibly even as older men) is a habit of fast ejaculation, of masturbating as quickly as possible, and often furtively, just to relieve our sexual tension. I’m not saying this is a bad thing, but it’s certainly unhelpful in lovemaking because it establishes a pattern of behaviour that does not enable men to last a long time in bed when enjoying sex with a woman.

But the reality is actually rather different: to start with, most women who enjoy sexual intercourse with their man appreciate an extended period of contact and closeness. After all, there’s nothing more intimate for a woman than allowing her man to penetrate her and hold him close. It’s often said that men need sex to feel love, but I think the same is often true for women, in the sense that they get a greater sense of intimacy and connection with a man while making love. Secondly, if a woman has any chance at all of reaching orgasm during intercourse, she’s going to need more than 90 seconds of penetration and thrusting to achieve that, unless she’s extremely aroused when a man enters her. To reach orgasm in 90 seconds she’ll need to be so aroused that the act of penetration tips her over into orgasm. And thirdly, most interestingly of all to me, is the fact that sex which lasts longer actually produces better orgasms for men (orgasm is a release of tension, and the more tension, the better the orgasmic release….and the longer sex lasts, the greater the tension…you get the idea, I’m sure).

This raises the very interesting question of why men appear not to try particularly hard to last longer in bed. Most men who seek out a cure for premature ejaculation, or a way to delay their ejaculation, do so because they’re embarrassed about coming so quickly. The sense of shame that they experience, or the embarrassment they feel when they can only make love to woman for a short time, is such that they want to do something about it…

But the reality is, as the statistic of 90 seconds’ average duration of intercourse proves, that not so many men appear to be particularly successful at this. So we have a paradox: we men feel anxious about coming too soon, we feel ashamed or guilty or like we are letting our partners down – or perhaps our sexual self-confidence is reduced – when we do come too quickly, and we certainly know that our female sexual partners would like us to last much longer in bed – so why don’t we actually learn how to do this?

I think the answer lies in a couple of simple facts. First of all ejaculation is so rewarding. As somebody once said to me, “There’s no such thing as bad ejaculation, it’s just that some are better than others.” The second thing is that ejaculation control takes persistence and effort, and in the face of an increasingly intense desire to simply ejaculate as hard and fast as possible (which is what we instinctually feel when we start making love), it can be quite hard to apply the principles that you’ve learned in ejaculation control training. We can thank Mother Nature for her desire to see us fertilize our partners for that one!

So, in practice, any premature ejaculation treatment, any system that bills itself as a way  to last longer in bed for men, has to do several things. It has to provide techniques that are practical and realistic, as well as being easy to use when you’re actually making love. It has to be simple and effective, so that it doesn’t take a man’s mind off what he’s doing when he’s making love, and it actually has to be flexible enough that it can be used by men whose needs are slightly different. In the next post, we’ll have a look at the various ways in which it is possible to learn to delay ejaculation.

The Art Of Lasting Longer In Bed

Why do I say the “Art Of Lasting Longer”? Well, because you need to apply a little bit of skill and creativity to lasting longer in bed. In other words, you need to find the right solution for you, and you need to use it with a little bit of commitment to lasting longer during sex. The official website of the best program I know of, one that shows you how to stop premature ejaculation easily and quickly, can be found here: how to last longer in bed for men. Click on the link now to discover more if you don’t want to read my review of the program.

Great, so you’re still with me. Thanks for reading on. As you’ve probably seen, there are many programs on the Internet which claim to help you stop premature ejaculation. I’ve actually researched them all, and I have to say they’re pretty disappointing. In fact, there are only one or two which actually stand out. Most of them have vast amounts of information, which is interesting up to a point, but pretty irrelevant if what you really want and need is just a practical system to help you last longer in bed.

Certainly when I was trying to cure my premature ejaculation, soon after I got into my first long-term relationship, I felt frustrated that I just didn’t seem to be able to last longer during sex no matter how hard I tried, and even more frustrated by the fact that the programs I bought just turned out to be moneymaking scams or rip-offs. I know that sounds a bit harsh, but some of the stuff out there is ridiculous – as you might already know.

In the end I chose a program which bills itself as “Staying Power”. This is a program written by a professional sex therapist with 12 years’ experience helping men overcome sexual dysfunction. There are several things I like about it: first of all it’s simple. The instructions are easy to follow and set out specifically, so that you have a week by week program of what you have to do and how you do it.

You might be wondering what that actually is! Well, if you want to last longer in bed, there are several things you have to do. The first is that you have to take a more relaxed attitude to sex, so that your anxiety doesn’t spiral out of control, or even just so that you don’t feel nervous or apprehensive around sex. All of those things make your adrenaline spike, which in turn makes you come more quickly. To last longer you need to be relaxed. Therefore the program gives you complete instructions on how to be relaxed during sex, and what physical practical approaches you can take to sex that will ensure you remain relaxed. That includes breathing exercises, physical relaxation, and the right choice of sexual positions – as well as a good section of information on the way you should think about sex.

The second thing you have to do is use a series of exercises to train your body to respond to sexual stimulation more slowly, so that you don’t become sexually aroused as quickly. In a way this is really the key to lasting longer in bed: the author of the program illustrates every step of these exercises with photographs so you can both read and see what you have to do. It involves things such as becoming much more “body-centred” by using sensual touch so that a large part of sex is about getting aroused in your body, rather than relying just on fantasy to get aroused. These are exercises you can do with your partner, and they’re great fun, very erotic and very sensual. In fact these exercises alone will probably make you much more comfortable with sex and much less likely to ejaculate quickly.

The third thing is to become aware how near or far from ejaculation you are. Most men with premature ejaculation find that they come very quickly, often quite unexpectedly, and they have no control over the speed with which their ejaculation comes upon them. By going through a series of exercises which the author of this program described in detail you can become much more sensitive to how aroused you are, so that your ejaculation is never going to creep up on you unexpectedly. And the point of this is that once you know how near your ejaculation is, you can actually last longer in bed by doing things that slow down the increase in your level of sexual arousal.

If you’d like to review the whole program you can find it here: how to last longer in bed.

Simple Ways To Last Longer In Bed

Looking for some emergency techniques to last longer in bed? The simplest and quickest ways to last longer are as follows:

1) Reduce your sexual tension and level of arousal by masturbating once, or maybe twice, between one and two hours before you actually have sex. Sure, this can be a little bit impractical if you’re out on a date, and you don’t have the opportunity and privacy to engage in a little bit of self pleasuring help you last longer later on. But there again, you can always nip off to the toilet for a quick one, and your date never need know what’s happening. If you don’t like this idea, just think how much more pleasant it is to be lasting longer in bed than coming uncontrollably.

2) Wear a condom. This really only helps if you’ve just met your date, and you want to last longer, since you should pretty much be wearing a condom anyway with anybody whose sexual history don’t know. However, it can also help in a long established relationship, but it’s a good idea to use plenty of lube on the outside of the condom so that it doesn’t make your partner sore. Will it help you last longer in bed? Yes, up to a point: and if you’re looking for emergency tactics to last longer in bed, then it’s certainly not a bad idea.

3) Reduce your anxiety about sex by explaining to your date that she turns you on so much, you’ll probably come quite quickly – and then make it up to her by giving her a fantastic orgasm with oral sex or masturbation.  You might wonder what anxiety has to do with premature ejaculation. Well, many guys who don’t last very long in bed usually have quite a lot of anxiety or edginess around sex. But to control your ejaculation you need to be as relaxed as possible before you start making love. This reduces your level of adrenalin, which in turn stops you getting aroused as quickly, and so helps you to last longer in the sack. So, if you do have some anxiety around sex, then it’s a good idea to communicate with your partner about what you’re thinking and feeling rather than trying to be a real “bed hero”. The more open and honest you are, the less your partner will be surprised and disappointed if you come too quickly, particularly if you make sex last for a long time  (at least for her!) by giving her a good session of oral sex and bringing her to a climax before you enter her.

4) Don’t do anything that’s going to excite you like rear entry sex before you know you can control your ejaculation.  Sad fact, but the most exciting sexual positions are obviously the ones that will make you come more quickly. Unless she specifically requests a pounding session of rear entry, you’re much better off trying things like side-by-side sex, where the pressure on your penis is much lower than in any other sexual position, and you’re likely to last a lot longer because your muscles are more relaxed. (Muscle tension speeds up your orgasm, in case you didn’t know.) Alternatively, invite her to go on top, which also puts less pressure on your penis.

Now all these things are very helpful in being able to last longer in bed, but if you want a permanent cure then you need to try out a program specifically designed to overcome premature ejaculation, which you can find here: how to last longer in bed.

Simple Ways To Control Your Ejaculation & Last Longer In Bed